How to Know if Your Ex Deserves a Second Chance

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No matter what the reason behind a falling out with your ex is – no 'sin' is big enough to not warrant forgiveness. Alright, maybe cheating is one thing which does not deserve immediate absolution – but there's a certain point in your life that you would have to move on.

So let's ignore the reason for the breakup for a minute. How exactly would you know if your ex deserves a second chance or not?

Here's the top 5 signs that you should hear him out:

1. He says "I'm sorry I hurt you" instead of "I want you back".

When he says I want you back – it more or less signifies that he's still the selfish prick who's only thinking about himself. If he wants to win you back, has he even considered begging for your forgiveness? And what if you do not want him in your life anymore?

On the other hand, if he says "I'm sorry I hurt you" – this is a sign of maturity that he's willing to admit his mistake, and that he will do what he can to win you back in his life.

2. He respects your feelings, and actually shows that he does.

When your ex keeps showing up unannounced at your doorstep and you clearly told him that you need space – that is not respecting your feeling. His respect should be shown in his actions, too.

3. He says "I wish you the best" – and he's sincere.

Your gut instinct would know if he's sincere when he says that he wishes the best for you. Just like women, men would not want to reveal that they are still pining for us. When he says that he wishes you the best and he means it no matter how much it may hurt his pride to tell you so – then he does deserve a second chance.

4. Look back and weigh in: do all the good times that you had together more than make up for the bad times in your relationship?

Weigh the pros and cons of getting back with your ex? Do you think that the happy times that you had together more than make up for the bad patches? Do you feel more miserable without him now than you did when you were together and having a fight? IF your answer to both of these questions is yes – then your man probably deserves a second chance.

5. If your best friend or family thinks that you're making a huge mistake by not welcoming him back into your life.

When we get hurt, there is a tendency for us to be blindsided and only hear our side of the story. If your best friend or closest family members think that you're nuts for dumping him over whatever reason – then it is high time to hear him out and give him another chance!

If most of these signs are present – then you would know deep in your heart that your ex deserves a second chance – even though that stubborn, hurt part of your pride insists otherwise.

Remember that you deserve to be happy – and if you're miserable without him anyway, why not give your ex a second chance?